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You have a family. How do you balance home life and work responsibilities?
2 Corinthians 12:9
“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
Being a working mom can be a lonely job in the Christian world. Sadly, I didn’t find much support from my former church after my first child was born. For many reasons, I returned to my teaching profession. One reason was economic. The other was that I really loved my job, but I kept that to myself in the beginning.
Many women questioned my decision to work and asked why I wasn’t taking time off to raise my child. I never quite knew what to say or how to respond. What did they mean? I (along with my husband) were going to raise my child! My husband and I prayed about this and he fully supported my decision. We agreed to re-evaluate if things weren’t working out. I knew working and having a baby was not going to be easy, but I was ready for the challenge.
After a two month leave, I dropped my daughter off at my mom’s house and drove to work. I cried the first day as I really missed her. But after I got to work, I fell back into my groove. And most of all, I had something wonderful waiting for me when I got home. What I didn’t realize was what my precious little daughter was doing for my mom. She had lost my dad a few years prior. She was lonely and didn’t drive. Being with my daughter changed my mother. Her demeanor softened and every time she saw my daughter she told her “I love you.” Those were words I never heard from her growing up. In many ways this was healing for me.
My daughter is now 8 and entering the 4th grade, and in the interim I was blessed with another daughter, 6 years old and entering 2nd grade. Both are amazing girls who love Jesus, love school and love life. They are by no means perfect, (that’s for another blog!) but they are such a joy in my life. They are proud of their mom who is a teacher, and never once have I looked back with regret on my life…
It wasn’t always easy. My second daughter did not sleep for the first 3 years of her life. I went to work so many days on as little as 3 hours of sleep. But the Grace of God truly carried me through. I learned along the way that when I arrived home from work, to give my focus completely on my girls and husband. Dinner was made, baths were given and play time was abundant. But, the minute they hit the bed, I hit the school work. I corrected papers, planned lessons and researched ideas on the internet. My nights began at about 8:30 and ended at about 11. That includes laundry, dishes, etc. I do know that one of things that I let go is myself. I don’t always take care of myself the way I should. But as my girls have gotten older, I have found more time for myself to read, polish my nails, or just go the store …ALONE. Being a working mom has forced me to be much more organized and structured. The girls pack their own snacks and repack their backpacks before they go to bed. When they arrive home, they know exactly what to do before homework time. I’m usually making dinner while they do homework and I am available to help while in the kitchen.
It’s a balancing act that requires patience, flexibility and a HUGE dependence on God. I can’t do it all, and I learned that along the way. I never want to admit that I can’t do it all, but if I could I wouldn’t need God…so he ever so gently shows me how VERY much I require his strength. Dependence on God is vital in order for me to function as a wife, mom and teacher. There are days when I feel guilty if my child is sick and I’m at work, or if my child is sick and I’m not with my other students. When you have a passion for what you do, and you believe God has put you there, then he will truly make a way for you. I am passionate about working with children and I love being mom. THIS is where God wants me right now…and I’m happy to oblige!