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If you missed itclick here to read part one of Carrie’s moving story.  Today Carrie concludes her story by sharing some of the reflections that have helped her move successfully forward in meaningful ways.

In this journey of survival of the death of my son, I have learned so many things!

I’ve learned hard lessons that life isn’t fair. God never promised us a rose garden. He did promise to  hold us when we need held, carry us when we can’t walk, help us make decisions when we can’t complete a thought, and mend our wounds in time.

I’ve been weak through this journey. I’ll be honest. I’ve made some mistakes in these passed months. I have done some things without thinking and I have not done certain things that I think I should have done.  I’ve struggled with the why’s of not being able to hold TJ that night. I have used humor to both help me cope and hide behind. I’m not sailing through this thing unscathed.

But everyday is a choice. Will I let this experience cocoon me in sorrow forever?  Will I let my own grief blind me from other people’s struggles? So I let myself cry when I want to cry,  be angry when I want to, and laugh without feeling guilty about it. I roll with the punches of every emotion on this rollercoaster.

I’ve learned not to fight the down times or the scary times. I find it’s easier to embrace the moment even if it’s not fun.The quicker I accept the valleys, the quicker I can reach the mountains.  My grandma’s coin phrase is, “This too, shall pass.” My sadness about TJ won’t pass, but the intensity will.

Hope during trying times can be found by trusting in God’s promises.  Here is one of my favorites:

Is. 25:8,9:

“…He will swallow up death forever.

The Sovereign Lord will wipe aways the tears from all faces;

He will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth.

The Lord has spoken.

In that day they will say,

‘Surely this is our God;

we trusted in Him, and He saved us.

This is the Lord, we trusted in Him;

let us rejoice and be glad in His salvation.'”

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If you missed itclick here to read part one of Carrie’s moving story.  This week Carrie continues her story by sharing some of the reflections that have helped her move successfully forward in meaningful ways.

The secret recipe for a happy life is found in Scripture.  Here is a favorite passage about the potential to live life with “inexpressible and glorious joy” regardless of painful circumstances:

2 Peter 1:3-8 says this:

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ!  

In His great mercy He has given us new birth

into a living hope

through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,

and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade–

kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power

until the coming of the salvation

that is ready to be revealed in the last time.  

In this you greatly rejoice,

though now for a little while you have to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.  

These have come so that your faith–

of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire–

may be proved genuine and may result in

praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.  

Though you have not seen Him, you love Him;

and even though you do not see Him now,

you believe in Him

and are filled with an inexpressible and glorious joy,

for you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.”

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If you missed itclick here to read part one of Carrie’s moving story.  This week Carrie continues her story by sharing some of the reflections that have helped her move successfully forward in meaningful ways.

Bad things happen because we live in a sinful world, but strong faith will set you free. There are many verses that have meant so much to me during this hard time of loss.  One favorite is James 1:17 which says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like the shifting shadows.

Every smile someone gives you, every child you have, the sun and moon and nature, every perfect gift comes from God.  Everything that is good is from heaven. Beauty in nature, love, joy, peace, patience, etc. Everything that makes you smile is from God. We live in a sinful world out of our own free will and choices. (Romans 5:12)  But I can rejoice every day at the good and perfect things God sends to me.

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If you missed itclick here to read part one of Carrie’s moving story.  This week Carrie continues her story by sharing some of the reflections that have helped her move successfully forward in meaningful ways.

A couple of years ago we bought TJ a really nice Bible and Bible cover. The cover had the verse Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you hope and a future.”  I didn’t know then that gift would be a gift and a hope to me in a few years. God knew TJ’s future and it gives me hope for my future.

Two weeks after his death, we found a good-bye note in TJ’s room in a hollow globe with his other important stuff. It said, “If you are reading this right now, it is because I’m gone. Don’t miss me too much, I am probably having a pretty good time with God right now. I love you all, Tj.”

We sobbed and thanked God for making TJ’s departure so merciful on us.

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If you missed it, click here to read part one of Carrie’s moving story.  This week Carrie continues her story by sharing some of the reflections that have helped her move successfully forward in meaningful ways.

As a parent, what do you want most for your children? We want for them to be happy, healthy, and successful. I have come to realize that my son is all that and more as he sits with his Savior in heaven.

John 5:24 and 25 have meant alot to me:   “I tell you the truth, whoever hears My word and believes Him who sent Me has eternal life and will not be condemned; he has crossed over from death to life.”

“I tell you the truth, a time is coming and has now come when the dead will hear the voice of the Son of God and those who hear will live.”

Easter meant a lot to me this year.  God sent His only Son to die, so that when my only son died, he could be with God.


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